One of the best things about being a writer is the interactions I get to have with people who read what I write.Recently,one of my readers gave me a very thoughtful feedback after reading a post about getting over from the pains of the past and moving on in life.He said that it isn’t easy to actually get over bad memories and move on with life as easy as it is to say “Get over it already”.We don’t choose to keep bad memories with us,they choose to stay with us. And simply saying that we have to get over our hurtful memories to move forward in our lives with a happier and more positive outlook isn’t helpful enough,that I must write about HOW TO GET OVER IT instead.
This got me thinking how,we,given our typical human nature,tend to search for quick-fix rules and proven solutions to every problem that comes our way even if it is life itself and the complex emotional problems associated with it that we are talking about.
Not a single person in this world is an expert on life problems and I am not an exception.Through my blog I tend to share what I feel about life and how we can live in a better way accepting the good and the bad in our life.I am not giving away or even preaching solutions,I am just giving suggestions that may help us in some way or the other towards a better and happier life.
Through this post, I want to share my outlook towards this issue and the way I see it.
I simply want to convey a message to all of you that :
“You decide each and everything in your life, including getting over all the bad things”.
It is true that it’s easy to say things but hard to do the same.There are some things in life that simply cannot be done-like wiping away painful memories and sufferings.But,there are some things that we can do-what we can do is try…and gradually we will succeed,even if not completely.
Take,for instance,the attitude of positivism-You can’t be expected to stay happy when things are going bad with you,or get over the memoirs of a bad past when it haunts you.But,what we can do is-try our best to make things better and try our best to move on.
So you had a bad day-leave it behind and do something you love.Talk to your best friend or go for a happy movie hangout with friends,de-stress with your favorite pass-time or an interesting hobby ,spend some time alone if that’s what you need,go on a trip-do anything that will lift your mood but DON’T sit in a corner and sulk.Your day was bad-you are probably making it worse.
So you can’t get over the emotional breakdown caused by a painful break-up,you gave your heart and soul to that relationship and now it’s shattered..You cannot turn around time and start all over again but what you can do is analyse what went wrong,learn from your past and focus on the better things that still are in your life-all the wonderful people you have around you with all their love and care.
Remember this-there aren’t hard and fast solutions for each and everything but there are solutions.
It is true that there are somethings which once broken can’t be mended again,but isn’t half the pain better than the feeling of the total sorrow?
Isn’t a hope for a better tomorrow a good choice than the belief of having a worthless life?
Isn’t believing that everything will be alright better than deciding that everything is over?
Life’s nothing but what we make of it.You decide whether you want to remain determined no matter the whole world wants to bring you down and your decision will be what you stand for.It all depends on you-to look at a situation and make your own decisions.All i want to say is:
DECIDE TO LIVE,DECIDE TO BE HAPPY,DECIDE TO BE UNBREAKABLE,DECIDE TO BE A BELIEVER,DECIDE TO WIN AND DECIDE TO MAKE YOUR LIFE WORTH IT.