As humans,we have a natural tendency and almost a habit of sub-consciously judging people based on their physical appearance, demeanor, way of talking,choice of music,etc.The judgement being based on one or maybe everything that is visible to the eyes and reaches the brain.
But the truth is-There is more than that meets the eye.It takes more than just a mere first impression to know about somebody and form a just opinion thereon about their nature.
Many times,we come forward situations that make us realize that first impressions often get us mistaken.We may now be best friends with someone who seemed too unfriendly,grumpy or cold in the first instance.We may have found ourselves falling in love with somebody whom we found utterly arrogant,self-obsessed,”too loud” or “too plain” for our liking in the beginning.
We tend to make our own assumptions and conclusions about the nature,lifestyle and even the background of a person at the first instance based on material things like the kind and brand of clothes they have worn,the accent in which they speak,the pitch and tone of their voices,their physical features and a million other things .And this phenomena, as we all know is called”STEREOTYPING“
However,we can’t ignore the fact that one cannot look into a person’s soul and feel the purity of their hearts the moment they see someone.It is indeed true that,it is the first impression that makes an impact,it is the first impression that makes us realize whether we want to know somebody more or not.
But the point is,WHY SHOULD WE JUDGE ANYBODY,ANYWAY?
Why can’t we simply have a mere opinion and not a decision?
Stereotyping or making a fixed opinion about someone based on one thing or the other,is consciously or unconsciously done by almost everyone.It’s in our nature,It is a part of our life,It is something we just can’t seem to take out of our systems.We just can’t seem to help it.
In my opinion,first impression is ADEQUATE,but not enough.For making a judgement about somebody,if you have to,at least take a second impression,or maybe a third!!There is no need to close the doors of your heart to someone just because theirs was not a good first impression-who knows you might have just missed one more person who could have been a beautiful addition to the list of people who you love.So next time you have a lingering first impression about somebody-Good or Bad-THINK TWICE.
There are two kinds of people in our life-those who love and care for us and those who we wish would love and care for us.
The irony of our lives is that- we spend so much time in waiting,expecting and wanting the love of other people while forgetting to notice,appreciate and cherish the people whose love we already own.
We waste our times trying to impress some people while ignoring the ones to whom no pretense is required to win us their love.
We wait forever to be loved back while the love we already have remains unnoticed.
The people who love you from their heart and soul are those who want you to be happy- no matter what!!They are those who love you for what you are,know your every highs and lows and accept you without any judgements in your every mood,every appearance and every emotion.
Don’t let these amazing people drift away from your life.Respect their love and treasure their presence in your life.Don’t take those people who love you for granted,because no matter how deep and forgiving their love is ,they are going to be hurt by your indifference at some point of time.
Don’t ever let yourself loose love of the people who are genuine and true because in the end, it will be your loss anyway-it will be a moment of happiness taken away from your own time,a page torn away from the book of your own life.
So give back the love you receive,share the smile you have,embrace love as it comes to you,don’t let the best ones in your life go away from you.Life is too short to leave it devoid of happiness and love.
“What good are treasures,riches,diamonds and gold?
when you have no shoulders to lean on and hands to hold?
Don’t let life pass by you without giving you the love you deserve,
The people who love you for who you are the treasures you’ve got to preserve.”
The word is-DIVINE-for how the earth smells after the rain.After all the weariness and dust of the earth has been washed away to unveil that priceless,picture-perfect face of the earth and the beauty it holds.The clear skies,the wet grounds,the trees swaying gently with the rhythm of the soft breeze,the fresh smell of the soil,it’s all out of the world.Everybody loves this weather,it’s such a happy sight.How the rain washes away the effects of the scorching summer heat and brings with it such feeling of unmatched joy to people is splendid.
I am addicted with the smell of the soil drenched after the rain,taking in all the aura and feeling all the negative vibes,glum mood and worries disappearing with every breath i take.Taking a walk or going for a drive in that weather,sipping hot coffee and chatting up sweet nothings, Listening to my favorite songs while admiring the beauty all around,watching kids jumping and playing happily around,seeing the trees more greener,the flowers more brighter,the skies most beautiful hue of blue,the freshness all around like a new day on its own…Could life be any better?
It brings with it smiles that are drawn upon people’s faces without any superficial charms.I believe that in spite of all the differences in personalities,choices,thoughts and lives that we-the people have,there are some things that please us,bring moments of happiness to all of us in the same way and this-is one of them.
It is one of those times,which always inspires that hidden writer in me ready to share my thoughts with the world,always gives me more reasons to appreciate this life,always fuels those happy feelings in me,always makes me wonder how beautiful these small things in life are.
Life is like a plain paper-You have the palette in your hand to color it in any hue,any shade and any shape you wish.
LIFE IS BEAUTIFUL….
It’s not just a vain philosophy aided by some unrealistic ideas and false hopes.It’s not just a phrase told by somebody extremely happy or content.It’s not just a word of somebody who lives in a different world or time.It is not just an idea or a myth,but it is that beautiful truth we have not yet fully acknowledged and realized.
The beauty of life is that you get to decide which way it goes,what path it chooses and what horizons it reaches.Even in moments where you cannot decide or control,you can understand and have the clarity of things you want and things you don’t-in your life.
We cannot be happy all the time,We cannot be right all the time.Even the most beautiful flowers fade and wither after their bloom.But we can learn from our mistakes,we can cry in our sorrows and then,we can move on.We can make our life better,it’s a constant process.
So many times,we make mistakes in choosing the right kind of people in our lives.We fall in bad company,get affected by de motivational people,become a victim of politics,get our hearts broken.But with time,we grow,we realise,we make amends,we grow conscious and we become more capable of making better choices and less mistakes.And it’s all us and the decisions we make,We have the capability of shaping the directions of our lives.
You have one life,make it better.You have the memories and the lessons from your past,you have the beauty and wellness of your present and you have the hopes and the promises of tommorow.Keep up that undying spirit of living in each moment of your life and you will have your own heaven in front of you.
Life’s precious.You get it once,make it Worth-while.
We lament on the imperfection and inadequacy of our lives,But for someone else,this is the life of their dreams.
We complain that we don’t have enough money to buy a bigger house ,but for the homeless,having a roof above their heads is a dream on its own.
We keep chasing the dream of having a “perfect” life,when all that really is to perfection is the fact that its just a state of mind.
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Our life is imperfect but what is really bad in this imperfection?
What is “perfect” anyway????And why should it be so important?
We have our limitations and our flaws but there are many things we excel in,things that we do best.We have had our own share of pain and failures,but we have lived moments of happiness and success.We have known the bitter realities and enjoyed the small joys of life,We have gone through obstacles and come out strong,We have known heartbreaks and we have learnt to move on.We have done compromises and known inadequacies,We have worked hard to get things we wished for.
We have known so many emotions,so many feelings,been through ups and down.Yet,this imperfect life is so dear to us,with all its moments and simple pleasures.
Life may not be perfect,but it is beautiful.We may not have enough things,but we can be content with what we have .We may not exist to some people,but for some,we are the world.Some people may have broken our hearts,but we have people in our lives who are ever ready to mend it .
Why should we thrive for a “perfect” life while our very own imperfect one is so beautiful,so full of life,so real?
Life is beautiful,AS IT IS.We love it no matter what and accept it the way it is.
You will always meet people who will discourage you,probably because they know your capabilities and are afraid you might reach heights they can’t even imagine about.You will time and again stumble upon people who are jealous of you probably because you have greater achievements,are more popular or more successful than them.
YOU WILL MEET THEM EVERYWHERE.
So many times,the reason for a bad day is not us but somebody who has made it their business to come in our way.
There are a lots of people who can’t see other people happy and having a life better than their own miserable one.They rejoice in creating misunderstandings,find triumph in seeing others fall and acquire satisfaction in harming others.But,it’s their bad luck in the end.We will keep going our own ways,past the damage and past the experiences but they will remain dwelling in the same old slump of their unhappy lives.Who will they have harmed in the end?They will but have a life devoid of friends and well wishers ,loosing out the better side of what the world has to offer and repenting of wasting time causing trouble to people.
Why should our life be affected at all by these kind of people?Why should we even care?Things can affect us as long as we let them to..why leave place for what is unpleasant and discouraging?Let them do whatever they want,but be determined never to let them come between you and your AMAZING LIFE…….
“Ignore them,for when you are important,people will talk-including those who can never speak well of others.
Let them try their best to bring you down,for in the end they will see it was never between you and them anyway.
Walk your own way,for its only you and your destination that matters.
Keep doing what is right,for when you do right,no evil can prove you wrong.
Never give up,for if u ever do-THEY WOULD HAVE WON!!!!!!!”
You are the best friend you can be to yourself,You are god’s own creation,You are the one who can make a difference,You are the source and destination of your life,YOU ARE THE WORLD AND THE WORLD IS YOU.
You and I,and all of us,make the world.We are all alike,yet different.Don’t ever feel that your worth is not recognised and you have no unique quality to stand out from others.You have your own identity and your own life which you have the perfect choice and freedom to make the way you want to.You are god’s unique creation sent into the world with a purpose of your own.
You have the ability to climb any mountain,reach to any heights or dwell into any depths.You just have to do the best of whatever you do.Your life is an empty canvass,paint it with your favorite colors.Live,love,laugh,share,take care,understand..life is but a journey where all you take with you are memories.You have the power to make yourself ,you have a unique talent which nobody else owns,do things in your own ways and give them your best shot.Your dreams will turn into realities.
Never feel you are worthless,underestimated or misunderstood.You are the most unique and special person.Make the best of what you have in you and you will be able to prove yourself to the world and to your own soul.