A wandering mind,a nomad soul,
I kept chasing things that i realised i didnt know.
I started with a fire and ended up in ashes,
At the end of my destination,i found i had somewhere else to go.
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We-the human beings are a treasure of innumerable feelings,thoughts,opinions,perspectives,emotions and outlooks.We all have stories of our own.But so many of us are less content,less happy,less satisfied than others.Why?What is it that differentiates us?What are the mistakes that we make?Why have we not chosen happiness?The answers are all within us-all we need is to look into our own souls and work towards changing what we can-for a better life.for a happier life.
These are 5 mistakes we usually make in making ourselves unhappy:
1. GIVING UP BEFORE THE START
We have limited our own capabilities.Sometimes,we give up even before we start just because it is hard and we”think” that we cannot do it.But how can you just decide when you haven’t even started?Somebody else will seize the oppurtunities from you and all that you will do is lament at how the other person succeeded right in front of you and be bitter about it.It could have been yours-had you not given it up.
You will meet people who will tell you that you are too ambitious and your dreams are unachievable.But the people who invented the greatest things were probably told the same.The difference is that-they believed in themselves more than anyone else,they did not give up just because somebody told them so.Don’t give up-it’s such a negative thing.At least trying will make you happier than living with the inadequacy of having not done what you could.
2.THINKING IT’S TOO LATE
People think about the oppurtunities they have missed,things they always wanted to do but never had a chance and get unhappy that it’s too late for those things now.But the fact is that It’s never-ever too late,at any point of your life,for anything.
3.TRYING TO PLEASE EVERYBODY
It’s the ultimate truth and irony of the world-You cannot please everybody.You cannot make everybody happy.Everyone has a different opinion,attitude and outlook towards things.You don’t have to change the way you look,the way you think,the way you talk,the way you conduct yourself,the way you live just for the sake of satisfying somebody else.It will do nothing but make you unhappy-and how can you make others happy when you yourself are not?We can never find happiness unless we are ourselves.
4.BOTTLED UP EMOTIONS
Untold emotions,unexpressed feelings are often the reason of unhappiness.Keeping things to oneself not only creates a maze of dissatisfaction and mental stress but also makes one’s attitude sour and unfriendly.Expressing what you feel,sharing your thoughts and opinions,making things clear to people,talking out problems instead of bottling them all up inside you ready to explode some day is the key towards a happier you.If you are dissatisfied with something,say it.If you think something is not right,say it.Don’t keep things hidden inside you which need to be clearly expressed.
5.THE COMPANY WE KEEP
People are the company they keep.Unhappy are those people who are surronded by people with a negative outlook towards life,those people who see the bad in every thing.Letting such people influnce you will indeed make your own life worse,they do nothing to contribute towards your happiness.It’s better to walk alone than walk with a bunch of worthless people.You may think other people have nothing to do with how your life goes,but the truth is that they do-to great extents.Leave out the bad and take in the good-including the company you keep.
Live life to the fullest.It’s a gift to be alive.