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TIME IS THE BEST GIFT YOU CAN EVER GIVE

The most prized possessions we own are our memories-the bittersweet moments we fondly treasure to look back into and smile whenever we need one.Those cute childhood memories,the times we spent being our parents’ spoiled kids,the memories of school and college,the precious little moments of sharing talks about anything and everything with our friends, the moments of laughter,pain,achievements and a million other things.

Memories are precious..

Memories mean treasured moments;

Memories mean time-that was,that will never come back yet stay in our heart and mind forever.

As we move on with our life, we often remember people by the memories we hold of them. We laugh and cry and become all nostalgic reliving all those old memories when we meet our friends who we haven’t seen since ages.We realize that it wasn’t really what we gave our friends or our family or our loved ones that mattered more,it was how much we spent time with them to create such treasured memories and that, made the real difference.

The best gift there can ever be is the gift of TIME.

Sure we all love getting gifts.Besides the happiness of having shiny new things; it is also about that special feeling of knowing that people genuinely care.But besides all the momentary happiness we gain from having things we always wanted,in the end,it is the thought, the love, the care and the feeling that matters the most to us.

Every relationship needs time. We grew up happily because our parents gave us their time no matter how hectic their own schedules were. We have a few friends who are dearer to us than life itself because we gave them our time and they gave us theirs.We fall in love because we give it time to flourish.Those memories, those beautiful moments-everything resulted from time we spent on creating them.

Everything is only a matter of time.After a while, It won’t matter how much you spent on that lavish gift you gave your loved one. What will matter is the amount of time you spent on making people feel special, on showing that for you-your people come first.

Sometimes in life,we get so busy putting everything  together that we forget there are people who expect us to spend time with them but are too considerate about our busy lives that they don’t even say it.We tend to be so caught up in our own lives that we don’t realize how long it has been since we last spoke to our loved ones or spent quality time with them.We don’t give them our time,and life passes by in wasted moments which could have been magical otherwise.

As humans,we are emotional beings-we crave love,we crave care,we crave moments of pure joy,we crave happiness. Occasionally we get tired of all the chaos and want to spend some time away and alone but most of the times,we want to be surrounded by people who love us-we crave importance!

For instance,one would rather choose their family and friends come over to see them on their birthday than getting a stack of presents delivered at their homes and not having a single person to share the joy of the occasion with.

The thing is-time,is the greatest gift of all!

 

I hope all of us realize this and spend more time with people we love.I hope we make fond memories everyday,I hope at times we go out of our way to make someone happy,I hope we share laughter and good times everyday,I hope we share moments everyday and I hope that we live everyday.

Happy Living!

FOR THE PEOPLE IN OUR LIFE-WHO TRULY MATTER!!!!

Every day,we meet a lot of people,but there are only a selected few among the millions of people we stumble upon in our life,who will remain unforgettable and hold a very special place in our hearts no matter what.

In all of our lives,we come across a lot of people who,in some way or the other,are in our hearts and minds-be it the special ones,the very very special ones,the unforgettables,the best ones,the loud ones,the quiet ones,the advisors,the “hello-hi” types,the bad ones,the silly ones,etc.

But whatever may be the kind of relation we share with them,people are one of the most essential part of our lives.

Words won’t be enough to explain what importance they hold,but here are some people,who are the best of them all:

Our FAMILY who have seen us grow ,been with us at all times-good or bad and who forgive us no matter what,the ones who give meaning to “Coming Home”.

That one BEST FRIEND who knows all our secrets,shares all our pains and celebrates all our successes.

That BROTHER who stands by us to protect us from this big bad world.

That SISTER who is our best companion,best critic and best friend,who,If it comes to us against the world, even fights for us.

That TEACHER who pushed us to work harder because s/he saw our potential before we could.

That ROLEMODEL whom we looked upon all the time,who gave us inspiration to be the best we could be.

That FUNNY ONE who always managed to make us smile even at our lowest times.

Those FRIENDS who we shared moments and memories with,those who were always there to quietly mourn at our loss and joyfully celebrate on our gains.

That LOVER who admires you for the person you are ,who gives you love that is larger-than-life and for whom you are the best thing in the world.

Life may be hard at times,but when we have the love and support of people who believe in us,every journey seems a lot easier!!Life is all about the people we have in it-to share the laughs,to cry together,to be there for each other and simply to understand that without these wonderful people,our life would never have been what it is!

HAPPY LIVING!!!!!!

ACCEPT

Accept the fact that Love is not always easy.

Relationships won’t be in the same flow and rhythm all the time-it won’t be all glitters and gold everyday.Your partner is not always going to be good to you,just like you cannot be sweet and calm when your world is going upside down.

The state of mind of people will reflect upon their actions-and it is anything but natural.After all we are just humans-We have our own imperfections,personality traits,complaints,insecurities,bad habits,mood swings and all that comes with being a normal  human being .

 REMEMBER:UNDERSTAND AND ACCEPT THAT LOVE IS NOT MEANT TO BE PERFECT,IT IS MEANT TO BE BEAUTIFUL IN IT’S OWN IMPERFECTION.

FOCUS ON THE GOOD PART 

Instead of finding fault in people,realize the best qualities in them and admire them,accept them as they are.Be grateful that you met people to whom you MEAN something,that you found,experienced and felt LOVE.Think what was it that brought you together in the first place,Think of the things you love doing together,Think of the common interests you share,Think of that wonderful feeling you get in just being with the one you love.

REMEMBER: IF THE GOOD PART OF YOUR RELATIONSHIP EXCEEDS THE BAD PART,IT IS INDEED WORTH KEEPING.

WORK ON IT

Just like everything else,if you want a good relationship,you have to work on it.

In every relationship there will be disagreements,discussions,difference in opinions and sometimes even fights.But don’t make the mistake of taking impulsive decisions at the heat of the moment.That is not where it should all end.

LOVE-You have been there,You have felt it.You know the feeling,You know what having “butterflies in your stomach” mean.You have been through the chase,the blushes,the “very much in love” state,the excitement and every beautiful feeling that love has to offer.You know what a wonderful feeling it is.So,why let it go just because you have differences?Instead,work on it.Make it the best part of your world.You have to think and analyze where you went wrong,you have to give your relationship time,of all the things.Just like an old bottle of wine,Love blossoms and gets better with time.

REMEMBER:LOVE IS SOMETHING THAT NEEDS THE NURTURING OF YOUR HEART AND SOUL. IF YOU SUCCEED TO WORK ON IT AND KEEP IT SAFE,YOUR WORLD WILL BE COMPLETE.

LISTEN

In disagreements,we often tend to take out all of our anger,dissatisfaction and frustrations while not letting the other person to even speak.But,you have to listen to the other person too,you CANNOT make your point and then turn a deaf ear to what s/he has to say.It is completely unfair.YOU HAVE TO LISTEN.

Listen, Understand, Act

REMEMBER:YOU HAVE THE IMPLIED RIGHT TO SPEAK YOUR HEART OUT,BUT YOU HAVE THE RESPONSIBILITY TO LISTEN AS WELL.

EXPECT,BUT BE REAL

What are your expectations from your relationship and your partner?

One of the most common factors that hinder a relationship is not being able to meet/live up to the expectations of each-other.It is but natural to have expectations from a relationship but their base needs to be realistic.The world we live in is real and our life is not a fairy tale.Expecting somebody to do things that are out of the world are what may kill a otherwise-beautiful relationship.No suppressed feelings of dissatisfaction would arise if you understand that though life doesn’t turn out the way you would want it to, it still is the best gift you have.

 

REMEMBER:JUST BECAUSE SOMEBODY DOESN’T LOVE YOU LIKE YOU WANT THEM TO,DOESN’T MEAN THAT THEY DON’T LOVE YOU WITH ALL THEY HAVE.

Happy Living.

FIRST IMPRESSIONS? THINK TWICE!!!

As humans,we have a natural tendency and almost a habit of sub-consciously judging people based on their physical appearance, demeanor, way of talking,choice of music,etc.The judgement being based on one or maybe everything that is visible to the eyes and reaches the brain.

But the truth is-There is more than that meets the eye.It takes more than just a mere first impression to know about somebody and form a just opinion thereon about their nature.

Many times,we come forward situations that make us realize that first impressions often get us mistaken.We may now be best friends with someone who seemed too unfriendly,grumpy or cold in the first instance.We may have found ourselves falling in love with somebody whom we found utterly arrogant,self-obsessed,”too loud” or “too plain” for our liking in the beginning.

We tend to make our own assumptions and conclusions about the nature,lifestyle and even the background of a person at the first instance based on material things like the kind and brand of clothes they have worn,the accent in which they speak,the pitch and tone of their voices,their physical features and a million other things .And this phenomena, as we all know is  called”STEREOTYPING

However,we can’t ignore the fact that one cannot look into a person’s soul and feel the purity of their hearts the moment they see someone.It is indeed true that,it is the first impression that makes an impact,it is the first impression that makes us realize whether we want to know somebody more or not.

But the point is,WHY SHOULD WE JUDGE ANYBODY,ANYWAY?

Why can’t we simply have a mere opinion and not a decision?

Stereotyping or making a fixed opinion about someone based on one thing or the other,is consciously or unconsciously done by almost everyone.It’s in our nature,It is a part of our life,It is something we just can’t seem to take out of our systems.We just can’t seem to help it.

In my opinion,first impression is ADEQUATE,but not enough.For making a judgement about somebody,if you have to,at least take a second impression,or maybe  a third!!There is no need to close the doors of your heart to someone just because theirs was not a good first impression-who knows you might have just missed one more person who could have been a beautiful addition to the list of people who you love.So next time you have a lingering first impression about somebody-Good or Bad-THINK TWICE.

Happy Living.


There are two kinds of people in our life-those who love and care for us and those who we wish would love and care for us.

The irony of our lives is that- we spend so much time in waiting,expecting and wanting the love of other people while  forgetting  to notice,appreciate and cherish the people whose love we already own.

We waste our times trying to impress some people while ignoring the ones to whom no pretense is required to win us their love.

We wait forever to be loved back while the love we already have remains unnoticed.

Romantic Heart form Love Seeds
Love is beautiful and divine.  (Photo credit: epSos.de)

The people who love you from their heart and soul are those who want you to be happy- no matter what!!They are those who love you for what you are,know your every highs and lows and accept you without any judgements in your every mood,every appearance and every emotion.

Don’t let these amazing people drift away from your life.Respect their love and treasure their presence in your life.Don’t take those people who love you for granted,because no matter how deep and forgiving their love is ,they are going to be hurt by your indifference at some point of time.

"Where there is love there is life."
And love keeps knocking at our doors,waiting for us to open our hearts and feel all that it owns. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Don’t ever let yourself loose love of the people who are genuine and true because in the end, it will be your loss anyway-it will be a moment of happiness taken away from your own time,a page torn away from the book of your own life.

So give back the love you receive,share the smile you have,embrace love as it comes to you,don’t let the best ones in your life go away from you.Life is too short to leave it devoid of happiness and love.

The love of my life
Love:when you find the true one,don’t let it pass by.(Photo credit: Wikipedia)

“What good are treasures,riches,diamonds and gold?

when you have no shoulders to lean on and hands to hold?

Don’t let life pass by you without giving you the love you deserve,

The people who love you for who you are the treasures you’ve  got to preserve.”

Happy Living.

"Just to Say - Congratulations" Phot...
I am not vain but i am really happy!!(Photo credit: photoframeshow)

My blog just turned a month old!!!And i feel like i just started yesterday and that i have been writing forever-at the same time.

4 weeks-1000+ views…Is it a good thing?Is it a good progress?Average?Below-Average?I have no idea ,I am no good at mathematical inaccuracies and analysis , i have no theory,a deduction or a feeling about this except one-that I AM HAPPY!!!!!

Smile.
Yippeee!!Yayee!!  (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Ah!The small joys of life.Why should i really search for  reasons to be happy when happiness is all around me,when happiness comes to me telling me My Dear Blog is a month old now!!!It’s not a big deal at all-i know it very well,but it is a little personal achievement that i couldn’t keep to myself-just had to share.

When i started this blog,all i wanted was to just express all the innumerable thoughts running in my mind all the time.It was just Me-and my feelings,my opinions!!!But with time,i realised it’s not just about me-It’s not just about me at all.It’s about people-it’s all about people.I realised how happy i felt when someone read my blog and appreciated it,when people told me i could be better,when people started following my blog-To me,it was not about the feeling of being recognized in some way but about that precious feeling of knowing that SOMEBODY, SOMEWHERE OUT THERE IS LISTENING.

Reading what i feel,what i see,what i learn,what i wish,maybe i made a little difference to somebody,maybe i gave somebody a hope..I realized a different kind of happiness that i took so long to discover-my love for writing never got this passionate.I absolutely love this!!!!!

Isn’t this whole blogging world all about-sharing thoughts?Reaching towards people and having them reach you-through your words?It’s such a happy feeling-it’s like having that friend you can turn to at any moment of day or night.This is like a job which pays you back for doing something you love the most in the world.And i am Happy!!!

I am happy that 1000 times somebody,somewhere has gone through my words and formed an opinion-no matter what it may be.

I am happy that 1000 times i have been able to SHARE what i feel and what i want others to know and maybe feel themselves-if they wish.

I am happy that 1000 times i have been able to reach out to someone out there.

It’s like a little victory of my own,it’s not about stats  and comparisons with other people,but the joy of having reached a goal i set,it’s pure bliss .Just saying that- I am extremely happy and incredibly thankful for everybody on giving me my very first 1000 views.

Happy Living!!

A wandering mind,a nomad soul,

I kept chasing things that i realised i didnt know.

I started with a fire and ended up in ashes,

At the end of my destination,i found i had somewhere else to go.

(photo credit:google images)

We-the human beings are a treasure of innumerable feelings,thoughts,opinions,perspectives,emotions and outlooks.We all have stories of our own.But so many of us are less content,less happy,less satisfied than others.Why?What is it that differentiates us?What are the mistakes that we make?Why have we not chosen happiness?The answers are all within us-all we need is to  look into our own souls and work towards changing what we can-for a better life.for a happier life.

These are 5 mistakes we usually make in making ourselves unhappy:

1. GIVING UP BEFORE THE START

We have limited our own capabilities.Sometimes,we give up even before we start just because it is hard and we”think” that we cannot do it.But how can you just decide when you haven’t even started?Somebody else will seize the oppurtunities from you and all that you will do is lament at how the other person succeeded right in front of you and be bitter about it.It could have been yours-had you not given it up.

You will meet people who will tell you that you are too ambitious and your dreams are unachievable.But the people who invented the greatest things were probably told the same.The difference is that-they believed in themselves more than anyone else,they did not give up just because somebody told them so.Don’t give up-it’s such a negative thing.At least trying will make you happier than living with the inadequacy of having not done what you could.

Don't Give Up

2.THINKING IT’S TOO LATE

People think about the oppurtunities they have missed,things they always wanted to do but never had a chance and get unhappy that it’s too late for those things now.But the fact is that It’s never-ever too late,at any point of your life,for anything.

3.TRYING TO PLEASE EVERYBODY

It’s the ultimate truth and irony of the world-You cannot please everybody.You cannot make everybody happy.Everyone has a different opinion,attitude and outlook towards things.You don’t have to change the way you look,the way you think,the way you talk,the way you conduct yourself,the way you live just for the sake of satisfying somebody else.It will do nothing but make you unhappy-and how can you make others happy when you yourself are not?We can never find happiness unless we are ourselves.

4.BOTTLED UP EMOTIONS

Untold emotions,unexpressed feelings are often the reason of unhappiness.Keeping things to oneself not only creates a maze of dissatisfaction and mental stress but also makes one’s attitude sour and unfriendly.Expressing what you feel,sharing your thoughts and opinions,making things clear to people,talking out problems instead of bottling them all up inside you ready to explode some day is the key towards a happier you.If you are dissatisfied with something,say it.If you think something is not right,say it.Don’t keep things  hidden inside you which need to be clearly expressed.

5.THE COMPANY WE KEEP

People are the company they keep.Unhappy are those people who are surronded by people with a negative outlook towards life,those people who see the bad in every thing.Letting such people influnce you will indeed make your own life worse,they do nothing to contribute towards your happiness.It’s better to walk alone than walk with a bunch of worthless people.You may think other people have nothing to do with how your life goes,but the truth is that they do-to great extents.Leave out the bad and take in the good-including the company you keep.

Live life to the fullest.It’s a gift to be alive.

Happy Living.

Like even after the dark and cold of winter,there is a undying promise of  the color and bloom of the springs,Friends are the people who,at times when we feel low, keep reminding us  that no matter what, they will always be there.

They are the ones who don’t let you sulk in a corner and cry when you want to,They are the ones who don’t leave you alone when you are lonely and tell them to get lost,They are the ones who you  will talk for hours about nothing,They are the ones you will argue with yet give a hug when it ends,They are one of the most precious jewels that you own and They are the people without whom,Life wouldn’t have been complete.

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Like every relation,there is no match for friendship…it stands on its own ground.We will need our friends all the time,through Life and beyond.Just having a “friend” that you can share the simplest of problems with,having a “friend” that will just listen to you without giving superficial advises when you don’t need them,having a “friend” who you can even do stupid things with without looking like crazy,having a “friend” who you can just hang out with doing nothing…Life would have been colorless without them.

And above all,the beauty of friendship is that it doesn’t have any dramatic or superficial charm to it .It has no false promises of the stars and the moon,it needs no ornaments of vain words and dramatic sentences,it is just as light as air and as plain as water yet as beautiful as LIFE and as important as BREATHING.

Cheers to Friends.Cheers to Friendship.Cheers to Life.

Happy Living.